Personal Growth

How I learnt to deal with criticism

Written by Ashley Halsey Published on 

While many people are being afraid of criticisms thrown in their direction, taking a positive light can strengthen us mentally.

When I was growing up, I was the tallest girl for my age. That was tough because people used to criticise me based on my height, and I wished that I could hide that part of me. During that time, it was my mom who stood by me and taught me how to value myself. I learnt from her how to not let what others say affect me, and how to change something negative into something positive.

Criticism can make you feel different emotions. It can make you feel insecure, it can make you feel as though not good enough, it can make you feel unsure of who you are and what represents you.

What is the meaning of Criticism? It’s the expression of disapproval by someone or something by their mistakes or what appears to their “wrongdoings”. For most people, it sounds bad to be criticized but for me, it’s not that case. You don’t have to feel hurt by that – use it as constructive criticism. Sometimes words are helpful but our expression and tone are the issues. It’s not about what we say, it’s about how we say it.

No matter what, I always tried to feel confident, even if it wasn’t the easiest thing to do. In order for this negative criticism does not to affect you, you need to turn those negatives into positives. For example, am I taller than most people? Yes. But does that define me? No. Believing is the first thing to become confident.

Always try to boost someone with positive criticism and not destroy them with the negative and hurtful ones. There is nothing wrong with feeling comfortable in your own skin, and I’m sure if I can do it, so can you.

Here’s what I learnt about dealing with criticism

Criticism is a part of life, and even the most talented and efficient people will have to endure it from time to time. After all, no one is perfect, and there is always some room for improvement. Although this is true, some people handle criticism better than others, and for some, it can be tough to handle.

For those who find themselves in this boat, the remainder of this article will look at ways people can stay motivated in the face of criticism.

  1. Keep Your Goal In Mind

Even if criticism has you discouraged, it is essential to remember your overall mission or goal. “Most project management or personal development philosophies call for individuals or organizations to define their why. By doing so, everyone involved maintains a clear concept and idea of what is to be accomplished, and this can serve as both motivation and direction during times of uncertainty,” writes Theo Peck, a personal development blogger at Writinity and Last minute writing.

The entrepreneurial landscape is ripe with stories of business owners who encountered many stumbling blocks and much criticism along the way to success. In these instances, what kept them going was their grand overall vision of what they hope to accomplish. While not everyone tastes success, those who do often credit their commitment and drive to their faith in their mission.

  1. Spend Some Time Alone

People are social creatures, there is no denying this. However, from time to time, everyone needs some time away from other people.

Many people choose to accomplish this by going on a walk and listening to music. Not only is it relaxing and gives you time away from any criticism you may be facing, walking is therapeutic for the mind and allows people to achieve a new perspective on stuff that has been bothering them. “Many studies have demonstrated the mental benefits of walking. While most see the activity as an exercise in physical health, its ability to clear the mind and calm us down shouldn’t be underestimated.

  1. Spend Time With Different People

Just because one group of people criticize you doesn’t mean that others will. If you find yourself receiving a large amount of criticism from a certain social group, it may time to take a break and surround yourself with other people, preferably those who are more supportive.

“This being said, it is important to be responsible when doing this, as some people may use this technique as a way to insulate themselves from legitimate criticism,” writes Harry Von, a wellness writer at Draft Beyond and Research papers UK. Remember, not all criticism comes with mal intent, and in some cases, people can legitimately be trying to help you.

  1. Celebrate Small Victories

Accomplishing a goal or mission involves completing a set of smaller milestones along the way. When facing criticism, it is more important than ever to take a moment to celebrate the completion of these smaller milestones. Not only will it change how you feel, but it also reminds you of what your overall goal is and can help keep motivation up.

After all, criticism is one of the major motivation killers, and the best way to deal with it is by celebrating success.

  1. Examine The Criticism

Psychologists have found that in some cases, a productive way to help people get over their fears and phobias is by making people confront them head-on. While this technique doesn’t always work, it has produced good results for a fair amount of people in the past.

Now, we aren’t suggesting that those who have an issue dealing with criticism suffer from a phobia or irrational fear, but rather that sometimes the best way to deal with criticism is to face it head-on.

This brings us back to a point we raised earlier on; not all criticism is bad, and some have to be taken very seriously, especially when delivered by people we trust and care for us.

One of the best ways to combat criticism is by examining it to see if it holds any weight. If it does, great, you now have something to work on. If it doesn’t, well, then we know there is no point in losing any sleep over it.

Ashley Halsey is a professional writer at Lucky Assignments Manchester and Gum Essays. Over the years, she has been involved in a great number of projects, covering several different topics. When she is not working, the mother of two enjoys travelling, reading, and attending business seminars and workshops.

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